The Twelfth Day...

perfect I shoulda never met'cho ass face. lol

...a day you wish you could do differently

I don't think I can narrow it down to one day. There are several...bare with me as I finger through the pages of my mistakes.

~ I wish I could've stayed in school...

~ I wish I'd waited to lose my virginity...

~ I vacillate between whether or not I should've left home at 21 with my ex. I learned so much and have become who I am in part to that experience...but, I wonder if I should've stayed home.

~ I shouldn't have deleted my ex-friend. I probably should've backed away and not given in to my hurt and anger.

~ Probably should've left that last relationship SOONER. Won't say I wish he never came into my life, but I could've exited a little earlier into the fuckery...

I don't regret much...and honestly I can't say I regret ALL of the above actions. I believe I wonder more so, what could've happened "had I done things differently". I am certain that each event led to a lesson learned that has benefited me spiritually.

I think it's the politically correct (and egotistical) response to say, "I regret nothing". There's at least ONE thing we wished didn't happen to us and would have loved to have missed us when struggle and hardship was being passed out. There's a difference between feeling blessed PAST the struggle and feeling impervious to human frailty...such as regret and bittersweet nostalgia.

Hey, it's my opinion. If you think you can live this life without a tinge of regret tickling your be it. Glad for ya.

I'm out y'all...see you on Day 13.

13 scopers scoping:

No Labels said...

Yeah, I wish I would have held on to my virginity a little bit longer (although for many people, 18 was late). I know that we aren't supposed to regret because there are lessons in the mistakes, but still, what I wouldn't give for an eraser for some re do.

Lamont C said...

Mistakes are a big part of our lives. I tend not to use the "R" word, but there are things I would like to push the "reset" button on...

Thee_Kween said...

@No Labels~ I lost mine at 13...WAY too early. My mom said I broke her heart :( ...if it's any consolation...after she found out I didn't have sex again until I was 18 (and with the SAME guy)

@Lamont~ I know that's right!

Reggie said...

So many people like to say that they don't have regrets, but for most of us that's just not an honest answer.

Nice post Kween.

Thee_Kween said...

I agree Reggie. Thank you!

The God'ess said...

This topic was hard for many reasons. Guess that's why I didn't fulfill it like it was supposed to be.

Good job Sweets

Diva Processor said...

My post will pretty much be like yours...I can't just narrow it down to one day...@Maria I am stalling on posting mines as well.. just can't do one it's hard

Thee_Kween said...

@God'ess~ I try to [with every challenge] attack what's at the heart without making it the worst thing I could ever write. Write from the space you're in.

@Diva~ I'm sure there's a lot we could've done differently...I just try not to harp on it too much. These were the things that came to mind as being the moments in my life that left the longest impression.

ABoyd378 said...

*nodding* I Respect that. :-)

Thee_Kween said...


Humble BE said...

Not leaving sooner will always be one of my regrets. I feel you, sis.

Thee_Kween said...

It's one of those things that you wish didn't require a break upside the head or a tear in the heart...

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