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Is Romance An Illusion?



Romance, is defined in novels by poetic mack lines, flowers for smiles, serenades of seduction and promises of forever. It's cheekily repetitive in cards, stuffed animals and online graphics...yet, the truth of romance is lost on a lot of people.

First, let's research romance. Romance is defined (ref. Merriam-Webster's Online Dictionary) as: a medieval tale based on legend, chivalric love and adventure; a prose narrative treating imaginary characters involved in events remote in time or place and usually heroic, adventurous, or mysterious; a love story especially in the form of a novel. So from the FIRST definition, we conclude it as being a tale or story based on things spread by word or writings about love and chivalry. Chivalry is certainly on a respirator if not already pronounced dead. It's not even about opening doors and allowing ladies to pass first, as much as its about men being men. Taking the lead in a traditional sense, allowing for women to feel protected, cherished and cared for by their own personal knight. We live in a day and time where a man wants a woman who has her own. Sounds like he wants the package already wrapped and bow-tied, right? Whatever happened to a man going out and putting his physical body on the line to provide for a woman worthy of bearing his last name?

Then, we get to the SECOND description which puts romance definitely as writings, but dealing in fantasy. Mostly, in this form...romance is that idyllic story told of characters who cannot even remotely corroborate the beauty of such a love told. It's strictly to be believed...for the awe of what could be. The THIRD explanation of the word romance also tips towards heroic sagas narrated, most likely in the 2nd person...telling of fairy-like obstacles surmounted in the name of love's honor.

When you read all of that...what comes to mind? The Harlequin romances? Soap Operas? Movies like Titanic and The Notebook? The stories of love harrowed by time, circumstance and tragedy...made to beautifully capture the essence of an old cliche: "Love Conquers All". I myself have never been so sweetly "romanced"...by ANYONE. I've received flowers by a lover ONCE and cannot remember a time when any man cooked for me with the intentions of it being all about me. I have never experienced candlelit meals nor breakfast in bed (well once, but that was because I was sick). Yet, is that not romance? A man who would know that his woman is sick and rather than leave her alone, he'd tend to her and make sure everything she needed...she had? Someone who would do her laundry and shop for food or buy her feminine products shamelessly? If romance is that "extra" mile...to prove love...to aver feelings of dedication...then aren't those things possibly romantic?

Does romance HAVE to come in the form of a bouquet of flowers? (Even though I'm a sucker for a vase of tulips, gerbera daisies, roses or lilies). Isn't romance, calling your paramour in the middle of the night and whispering as she falls away to slumber, "I love you"...fostering dreams of you? I DO sometimes wish to be wooed conventionally at times. Flowers, music, candles, poetry or prose written for my ears only. I also KNOW that romance can be as simple as a man fighting to prove his love, refusing to allow you to believe anything other than you are special, confessing undying love and letting the love of your life know that there is no other that compares.

To me...romance is the dance of inspiration that shows...SHOWS your lover how much they mean to you. I will leave you with a quote I found on the page of my sister's friend:

"To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing." ~Unknown~

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Butterfly Effect said...

Girl, yeah you done left me in tears. You went hard and I feel every word. Romance is all about showing your lover that you ain't going no where and you got the balls to prove it with actions. I'm done. Got me over here crying like a baby...lol

Da_Kween said...

awww, I'm so sorry BE...I just speak from the heart.

I just think that in love...true love...a man should do what he can to prove to his woman that she is the one he wants above all and everything. No way she should feel less than the apple of his eye. Period!

CurvyGurl ♥ said...

Hmmm...I'm disillusioned by romance these days. It always seems to have a price...maybe it always has, huh? I dunno...

Da_Kween said...

It's understandable to have disillusions about it...it DOES seem to be pricy. That may be because people aren't genuine with it. It's like allowing someone to pay a bill for you and have them remind you every month that if it were not for them...

Or someone thinking because they helped, they get to come in and watch your cable. LOL There's no selflessness nowadays...a pure desire to do something for a loved one and be happy for their happiness.

It exists...it's just rare it seems.

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