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If you've been on the Internet long enough, you know that as quickly as we add friends...we subtract them as well. The social media networks are proverbial revolving doors. One day you're e-besties...the next you're blocking/blocked. Fights and misunderstandings not withstanding...there are times when "the list" must get purged free of stale connections and dead weight.
I'm a sentimental sap and at times...that's a bad thing. I've often kept people on my list because ONCE we were fast friends, ONCE we spoke all of the time, or we grew up together and knew each other when. It's not enough though. Social media SHOULD be a tool to not only get to know each other, but to grow from the experiences. Networking is a big thing on the Internet and it serves as a wonderful ladder to success...possibly.
Ultimately, it boils down to what kind of operation you're running. Here are 5 tips to find out what you should do and why:
~ Do you know this person outside of social media?
Yes? Would you speak to them in person?
Yes? Keep.
No. Delete
~ Is this person a business associate or personal?
Business? -- Keep. (unless they're not serving a purpose)
Personal? -- See above
~ Is there an unresolved issue between you and this person?
Yes? Do you care to resolve it?
Yes? -- Keep and Confront [in your own time]
No? Delete.
~ If you don't speak...is there another reason you hesitate? (ie. Games, Family, etc)
Yes? Keep only if you play said games or they're family.
No? Delete.
~ Lastly, Do they add anything positive to your day/life?
Yes? Keep.
No? Delete
Of course, there are so many other factors. If your friend doesn't come on often for some life reason or another, it's best to keep them if when they DO come around they're a pleasant addition to your feed/timeline. If they're not...then let go. If you've allowed an issue to fester and don't know how to approach it...give it time. If it fades, it wasn't important, if it doesn't...delete.
I for one am not impulsive. I don't get mad and delete for no reason. You have to violate my code of friendship or association. I'm not rude. I'm not a judgmental person. I mind my own business. So if you cross lines that I can't deal with, I'll delete you. I've made the occasional rash decision and I'm not proud of that, but for the most part when I've cleaned my slate...I'm confident in my decision to do so.
For me, this place on the Internet is as much about evolving and learning as it is adding friendships and networking. It means nothing down the road if what's being discussed and dealt with today is the same shit from the year before. I choose people who grow with me and who have inspiration to dispense.
I suppose, having said that...it's time to purge again.
Leave YOUR tips to social media "pruning". lol
2 scopers scoping:
That is definitely a great guideline to go by. It all boils down to if the association has a purpose...if it does, cool; if not, then delete.
Exactly!
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