All I've been hearing is this damn Swizz/Mashonda/Alicia Keys shit. Facebook. Twitter. STFU. It's getting to the point of blatant insanity and this cannot and will not be good for ANY children involved when they're able to read and understand.
Okay, let's get it out there. I uphold the sanctity of marriage. I want to be married in my lifetime (and I'm okay if I don't) but, I'm going to be honest, because I don't want to be a hypocrite for the sake of voicing my opinion. In this lifetime, I've had feelings for a married dude. An emotional affair so to speak. He's gone now...and guess what, YES...it took ME to send HIM "back home". If I'd let him have his way...I'd be ass up face down right now in some hotel off from the public eye. LMAO No. Truthfully...we cared about each other. I cared SO much for him and my own souls, that I told him I couldn't any longer pray for love to come to me in the form of possible marriage...while I entertained his "love" for me. To me, it was hypocritical to expect God to honor my desires while actively dishonoring this man's vows.
NOW...having said that...so no one can call me full of shit, lol...let's get to the meat of the situation.
Swizz and Mashonda were married. Took vows to one another. God doesn't do threesome marriages where some anonymous third party has equal responsibility in a couple's marriage. Call Alicia home wrecker all you want...Swizz wrecked his own home. You can't "steal" someone's man. You can't "wreck" someone's home. You can't "keep" a man or woman for that matter. People make choices, they stay, they honor their vows, promises and love regardless of issues, time and circumstance. Mashonda should've written SWIZZ' ass a public letter. Or how about keep that shit to yourself. Be two adults and keep your marital woes between the two of you. If I was Alicia Keys, I wouldn't have responded either. Not out of shame or embarrassment (and yes, she should be) but, because I'm not the other party in a God ordained union. I'm not obligated to uphold their vows. Alicia wasn't either. What ALICIA was responsible for, was upholding her image. Her self-respect. Her dignity as a woman and an artist/public figure. You can't do dirt when you're a celebrity and think no one will get wind of it. Alas, people take the risk for less than love everyday without considering the consequences. I personally think Mashonda might have been on some get back shit. (duh, right?) Well, I said that because I see how Mashonda has taken the demure role of being diplomatic and tactful, but how tactful was it to bring your business to the public eye, starring A. Keys as the "whore"? Hmmm, woman whose career is non-existent vs. "Superwoman"...sounds like a mud-slinging campaign. After all, Mrs. Beats DID say that she once looked up to Alicia and admired her music. THIS shit here? Was way too much drama. If for no one but her kids...she should've thought twice before doing that. That's just my opinion.
All of the backlash surrounding Alicia Keys is sickening to me. Not because I condone home-wrecking...because I don't. I released myself from my situation, because I couldn't sleep at night. It didn't sit right in my spirit. I never intended to feel him like I did...and truthfully, I wasn't even in love. He supplied a need emotionally that I wasn't getting elsewhere...yet, it was wrong. I take full accountability. So, my point here is that regardless of whether Alicia meant for it to happen or not. Is sorry or not...she has to live with herself. No one has a right to judge. It's unfair that she's taken the brunt of the ugly attacks, while Swizz looks like the "holy grail" of this debacle. He's the prize. He's coasting and not being put square on the blame like he should. NO woman can take a man from home unless he's already got one foot out the door and even then, it's by choice. Men have a gang of kids...and don't get the Erykah Badu treatment. Men go through MANY women...and don't get the Halle Berry special. Women are always accused of not being able to keep their men or handle their business and that shit is getting tiresome. Men have so many options that they get to hop from chick to chick and no one stops them at the gate with, "Why can't you stay with one?". When will these men be held responsible for their part in the failing of relationships and families. It's not cool at all...
For me...I don't get wrapped up in these people's lives, which is why I don't write sensationalist blogs about celebrities. I'm an artist and I respect artistry. I listen to music, I watch movies, I read books and poetry. I'm not concerned about peeping through Alicia's window to see if she scratches her ass or digs in her nose. I don't need all that.
Folks need to learn to mind their business and save their judgment for their OWN shit....you know? The stuff you might actually be ABLE to change?
You know, it's mighty funny that when Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt's affair was publicized, Angelina got SUPPORT for snagging "World's Most Handsome Actor" according to People. She was looked at in a wonderful, glowing light as Brad adopted her children as his own. Then she was glorified when they married and had three children of their own together. In the meantime, it was Jennifer Aniston who was barbecued in the spotlight for "not being able to give Brad a family"...and for being "too busy" to be a wife. Why is it that our culture is so quick to crucify our women for these things?
I'm a lover AND a fighter...I like the folks most don't. I walk to the beat of a drummer....who isn't REALLY in the band, but got the best beats. I am big on love..."I see you" where you're at...hopefully this blog helps you to see me, as well. Either Love me...or leave me alone!
Having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. - a quote by Dinah Craik